Sunday, February 12, 2012

Skirts

I used to wear skirts the majority of the time. And I've gone through phases in which I wear skirts, then stop, then get back into it, just back and forth. I'm at a point, where I am about to start wearing them again. Lately, particularly at church, I have found myself having to pull up my pants, been worried when leaning over that the pants might slip too low despite wearing long covering camis, been worried about them being too tight on my hiney and showing the panty line or whatnot, and that this might be a problem for some people, and that I didn't want to have that appearance. Not that I am at all thinking my amazing beauty or feminine loveliness is going to be a grand distraction or something, haha, but I feel like it is disrespectful to my husband, to myself, as an example to my children, I could go on. So, I think I need to recheck myself and my wardrobe yet again, and see what changes can be made to better reflect my faith and beliefs. Am I separating myself from wordly things, or am I letting my wardrobe become very wordly and am I not paying attention to the negative things I may have let in? Time to re-evaluate.

6 comments:

  1. I think this was posted for me! I know we have talked about the whole skirt thing in the past. It is something I struggle with because I *want* to wear skirts but I really like a pair of comfy fitted jeans. Time to pray for discernment on the matter.

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  2. Hi Ellen! Have you looked at this blog?

    http://www.themodestmomblog.com/

    There is also a button to them in the sidebar of my blog now. They actually have what is basically a "How to Dress in Skirts Comfortably" type series on the blog somewhere if you look for it. I don't think that's the exact name, but its basiclly what it boils down to - why a couple moms chose to, and how they do it, what essentials you need, etc. I can't go buy what they want me to right away, haha, but I've definitely begun evaluating my wardrobe and am reconsidering quite a few things about it. I am also considering making a purchase of a couple of new shirts from the shop they have connected with the blog to go under things I currently have. I find the camis I currently use to slip down and still be far too low cut on me than I would like. The ones they have on the website look great! I won't be buying any until after this pregnancy is over though, haha. I think it would be a bit pointless to get them right now!

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  3. I won't comment on the issue - just makes me mad! haha
    But, wanted to see if there was any baby news! Is your appt this week?
    Haley

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  4. Lol, why does it make you mad Haley?! I sure hope I didn't make you mad - I don't think skirts are a requirement, and I think there are MANY ways to dress modestly, I'm just examining my own motivations and where I'm at and how I'm "behaving", haha. I'm also, in a way, looking at it as being an issue of being "set apart". How many people can you tell are Christians because they are set apart in some way? In behavior, dress, etc.? Not many, and in a way that makes me feel like what have I done in my life to be set apart, to live a difference in my life? Sometimes, I feel I really haven't been. I don't feel like you have to be frumpy to be modest, but I also do understand from experience that men react a certain way to women, they were designed a certain way, and it is part of a responsibility and love on my behalf to make sure I am dressing modestly (not in skirts necessarily, as I mentioned before, haha) but just in a way that is keeping in mind honoring my husband, myself, other women and their husbands, the purity of those around me, and God. Its such a deep topic really. Anyway, I could seriously go on and on about it, there is so much. And it is all so very personal. Another blog I read (and Andrea, if you are reading this, it may have been yours) said "Hearts aren't changed by dirty looks" or something along those lines. And it really hit home and is true and struck my heart then, and I still remind myself of it often. The best way for me to share my faith and be like Christ, is to live out my faith in my own life actively, and to love others regardless, and to understand that even someone who is an atheist or pagan or whatever, could be there for a reason on the path to Christ, to learn or gain something that draws them to God. So the best I can do, is to live for Christ, and to show his love, and become more like him. Oh how difficult this is, because so often I want to reach out and shake people and say look at what you are doing wrong! And then I remember the gigantic log in my own eye when it whacks the poor soul I just accosted, haha, and I get drawn back to reality of my fault, my fault, my fault.

    And now, in baby news, lol. I knew I'd get there eventually. Have an appointment tomorrow with my OB. If all goes according to plan I should be getting my ultrasound orders at that appointment and should have the ultrasound hopefully later this week, or at most early next week. Then we should definitely have some news! I'm also a little nervous, just because this baby seems to not be so mobile as my other 2, because I rarely feel it, whereas with Abby and Will I was already feeling movement quite a lot. I don't feel like there is anything wrong really, but, you know how us moms get. We just want a healthy baby, and we get paranoid. So prayers for health and peace of mind so I don't go off the deep end with silly worries over nothing are always appreciated!

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  5. Um, yah, that comment was ridiculously long. Sorry! lol.

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  6. haha your reasoning for wearing skirts doesn't make me mad. It's a totally different thing about skirts that gets me fired up haha. I won't go there though.
    But, I definitely agree - modesty is very important and ESPECIALLY in the mommy role! Kudos to you for recognizing and taking action when things don't feel right!
    Anyway, YAHOOOOOO for appt tomorrow. Can't wait to find out what Ms Abby and Mr. Will will be welcoming - baby sister or brother!
    Lots of prayers for healthy baby and mommy!
    Haley

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